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like help on how to cope with my partner, she lost a breast to cancer o while ago, which never affected our relationship. she now has to have a full histerectomy.( sorry if wrong on spelling) she keeps saying she not a full woman anymore, and i should find someone else. until few months ago we had a good, sexual, long and trusting realationship. she now telling me we should stop seeing each other. i know shes only trying to protect me from the worst of what might happen. how can i tell her that no matter what they cut out off her, she'll still be the one for me. because she thinks its wrong for me to(be with a half woman) her words.
It is always very difficult to know how to reply to something like that.
It is clear she is feeling sorry for herself as well as trying to do what she THINKS is right and honorable by you. You need to remain her strength... for she needs you more than ever at this point.
I do not know how her approach to telling you that is, however, a very smart and very clever reply to her on your part might be to tell her that now woman who is as she says whole is able to match your girl even as half a woman. Tell her that you would take her over any "whole" woman in the world, because she is the heart that beats within you, and even if she considers herself less than a whole woman, she makes all others look like little girls that have no clue about life, and that she teaches you more every day than those others could in their whole lifetime or 20 of their lifetimes.
Make her understand that you are there to stay... and even if you are not married, you consider yourself having given her the vow, " 'til death do us part." Make her realize that she is as important to you as you are to her.
I am not good with advice of any sort\, but I hope that I gave you something that you could use.