May. 31st, 2023 at 3:06pm
[B]Tactics How to Screen Out Gold Diggers
The question is though, how do you screen for gold-diggers? How can you find out whether or not a girl you’re taking out on a date is in fact a gold-digger?�
It’s a good question!
I, for one, love girls who are sexy, fashionable, and confident. These are tempting qualities for me in any girl. However, one of the drawbacks of qualities like this is that they’re often – perhaps even most often – found in gold diggers.
And while I’m not wealthy enough to attract top-flight gold diggers looking for a payout all of the time, I dress well enough that I get approached by them sometimes in the U.S. (particularly in Las Vegas, that seedy den of predatory gold digging paradise). And I run into them in Eastern Europe and Asia.
Some guys like gold diggers, or are comfortable with the exchange gold diggers want. If you’re such a guy, who thinks it’s perfectly reasonable for a girl to trade her looks for your resources and financial security, this article won’t be of much interest to you. Or maybe it will be, as a kind of reverse technique. Just do the opposite of it and you’ll attract the gold diggers and repel the girls who don’t believe in this trade.
However, if you’re like me, and you dislike the foundation gold digging rests upon, then read on, and let’s talk how to screen these girls out.
How Gold Diggers Think About Dating
One of the wonderful things about women is the broad spectrum of ways various women think about their relationships with men. A woman can view a relationship with a man as a companionship. She can see it as looking for a man who excites her and stimulates her. She may desire a man who can take on a protective, almost fatherly role. She may be on the lookout for the ultimate husband, a man who fulfills her as a woman and seems like he’d be a terrific dad. She may want a man who’s on a mission she can attach herself to and find purpose and direction in life.
Or, if she’s a gold digger, she may be on the hunt for a guy with money, to whom she can trade her beauty and sex in return for trinkets and baubles.
A gold digger sets out to turn herself into a paragon of beauty. While most gold diggers aren’t true natural beauties, they all tend to work hard to pretty themselves up to the extent that most men’s minds are entranced. The average guy sees a gold digger, all decked out in her sexy attire, and to his mind she looks more beautiful than a non-made-up woman with authentic natural beauty (i.e., she doesn’t need two hours of hair and makeup to look stunning).
This is a lot of work for her, and she does it for one reason: to her, ‘looks’ are what women bring to the table. She values wealth in men, and knows men value beauty in women. So, to her, it’s a fair exchange: her great beauty, for his great wealth.
The higher-level gold diggers work to cultivate other parts of themselves to make themselves better companions for elite men, too. They may study history, business, economics. Some of them work hard to build networks of powerful men (usually using sex, or the prospect of sex, to keep those networks humming). They can be so good at this that a high-level gold digger actually becomes a legitimate asset to the man who takes her on as a girlfriend or wife. She serves as more than simple arm candy.
It’s important to note that gold diggers view a rejection of their world view as a rejection of them. And this is most strikingly true among the girls who are totally looks-focused (i.e., she’s cultivated only her appearance). Because she’s so one-dimensional, she has no fall back for any perceived rejection of her value, and takes pushback quite hard.
On Jonathan Haidt’s Moral Foundations Theory, a gold digger views looks for money as ‘fairness’. A man who wants her looks but won’t give her money is an amoral ‘cheat’; he isn’t playing fair.
What this means in practice is that if you meet an appearance-based gold digger, and communicate in one way or another that her looks aren’t worth your money, she’s liable to take it personal and flip deep into auto-rejection. She views you as an insensitive cheat. She values herself as “My looks are worth men’s money�, and any rejection of the value of her looks like this hurts.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t view any woman’s looks as something you want to trade money for. It doesn’t matter if your morality is the polar opposite of hers, and you view the desire of money for love as the ‘cheat’. In her view, your rejection of “money for looks� is the same as you telling her her looks (and, by extension, her herself, since she values herself by her looks) are worthless. She doesn’t value other things you have to offer her, like fun sex or an exciting date or an affectionate relationship. She wants goods and cash. Anything else makes her feel un-valued.
How did she get this mindset that “If men give me money/stuff, that means they value me�?
Sometimes girls’ mothers grind this into them from an early age: get yourself a man who can take good care of you. If he ain’t willing to take good care of you, he ain’t worthy of you. Get yourself a man who’s rich. Get yourself a man who can buy you things, don’t be trapped in the poor house like your Ma is.
Sometimes they seem to arrive at this mentality on their own, perhaps after media exposure or some early experience that convinced them they wanted to have it all, and a wealthy male was the ticket to it.
Regardless, this is how she views the world, and you’re not going to change her mind any more than she’ll change yours. It’s as deeply entrenched in her as her political beliefs or her religious ones. A woman’s value is measured by the success of her beau and/or amount of money he will spend on her, to her.
It isn’t a malicious thing, at least not with most gold diggers. She doesn’t actively try to screw a guy over (usually). What she desires, rather, is a well-to-do man who will shower her with things to make her feel she won the jackpot
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The question is though, how do you screen for gold-diggers? How can you find out whether or not a girl you’re taking out on a date is in fact a gold-digger?�
It’s a good question!
I, for one, love girls who are sexy, fashionable, and confident. These are tempting qualities for me in any girl. However, one of the drawbacks of qualities like this is that they’re often – perhaps even most often – found in gold diggers.
And while I’m not wealthy enough to attract top-flight gold diggers looking for a payout all of the time, I dress well enough that I get approached by them sometimes in the U.S. (particularly in Las Vegas, that seedy den of predatory gold digging paradise). And I run into them in Eastern Europe and Asia.
Some guys like gold diggers, or are comfortable with the exchange gold diggers want. If you’re such a guy, who thinks it’s perfectly reasonable for a girl to trade her looks for your resources and financial security, this article won’t be of much interest to you. Or maybe it will be, as a kind of reverse technique. Just do the opposite of it and you’ll attract the gold diggers and repel the girls who don’t believe in this trade.
However, if you’re like me, and you dislike the foundation gold digging rests upon, then read on, and let’s talk how to screen these girls out.
How Gold Diggers Think About Dating
One of the wonderful things about women is the broad spectrum of ways various women think about their relationships with men. A woman can view a relationship with a man as a companionship. She can see it as looking for a man who excites her and stimulates her. She may desire a man who can take on a protective, almost fatherly role. She may be on the lookout for the ultimate husband, a man who fulfills her as a woman and seems like he’d be a terrific dad. She may want a man who’s on a mission she can attach herself to and find purpose and direction in life.
Or, if she’s a gold digger, she may be on the hunt for a guy with money, to whom she can trade her beauty and sex in return for trinkets and baubles.
A gold digger sets out to turn herself into a paragon of beauty. While most gold diggers aren’t true natural beauties, they all tend to work hard to pretty themselves up to the extent that most men’s minds are entranced. The average guy sees a gold digger, all decked out in her sexy attire, and to his mind she looks more beautiful than a non-made-up woman with authentic natural beauty (i.e., she doesn’t need two hours of hair and makeup to look stunning).
This is a lot of work for her, and she does it for one reason: to her, ‘looks’ are what women bring to the table. She values wealth in men, and knows men value beauty in women. So, to her, it’s a fair exchange: her great beauty, for his great wealth.
The higher-level gold diggers work to cultivate other parts of themselves to make themselves better companions for elite men, too. They may study history, business, economics. Some of them work hard to build networks of powerful men (usually using sex, or the prospect of sex, to keep those networks humming). They can be so good at this that a high-level gold digger actually becomes a legitimate asset to the man who takes her on as a girlfriend or wife. She serves as more than simple arm candy.
It’s important to note that gold diggers view a rejection of their world view as a rejection of them. And this is most strikingly true among the girls who are totally looks-focused (i.e., she’s cultivated only her appearance). Because she’s so one-dimensional, she has no fall back for any perceived rejection of her value, and takes pushback quite hard.
On Jonathan Haidt’s Moral Foundations Theory, a gold digger views looks for money as ‘fairness’. A man who wants her looks but won’t give her money is an amoral ‘cheat’; he isn’t playing fair.
What this means in practice is that if you meet an appearance-based gold digger, and communicate in one way or another that her looks aren’t worth your money, she’s liable to take it personal and flip deep into auto-rejection. She views you as an insensitive cheat. She values herself as “My looks are worth men’s money�, and any rejection of the value of her looks like this hurts.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t view any woman’s looks as something you want to trade money for. It doesn’t matter if your morality is the polar opposite of hers, and you view the desire of money for love as the ‘cheat’. In her view, your rejection of “money for looks� is the same as you telling her her looks (and, by extension, her herself, since she values herself by her looks) are worthless. She doesn’t value other things you have to offer her, like fun sex or an exciting date or an affectionate relationship. She wants goods and cash. Anything else makes her feel un-valued.
How did she get this mindset that “If men give me money/stuff, that means they value me�?
Sometimes girls’ mothers grind this into them from an early age: get yourself a man who can take good care of you. If he ain’t willing to take good care of you, he ain’t worthy of you. Get yourself a man who’s rich. Get yourself a man who can buy you things, don’t be trapped in the poor house like your Ma is.
Sometimes they seem to arrive at this mentality on their own, perhaps after media exposure or some early experience that convinced them they wanted to have it all, and a wealthy male was the ticket to it.
Regardless, this is how she views the world, and you’re not going to change her mind any more than she’ll change yours. It’s as deeply entrenched in her as her political beliefs or her religious ones. A woman’s value is measured by the success of her beau and/or amount of money he will spend on her, to her.
It isn’t a malicious thing, at least not with most gold diggers. She doesn’t actively try to screw a guy over (usually). What she desires, rather, is a well-to-do man who will shower her with things to make her feel she won the jackpot
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