StarGazer

I am clearly comfortable with giving and receiving emotional intimacy. I long for emotional closeness and security with a special person, and I tend to be open with a partner in return. I would feel uncomfortable if there were serious secrets between me and my partner. Likewise, I regard a partner as my best friend and my foremost confidant. I would have no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with my partner. I have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. Bottom line: I need someone who desires and reciprocates intimacy.

I have strong self-esteem, sense of self and sense of accomplishment. Those who know me best would describe me as influential, patient and accepting of others – and calm, cool and collected most of the time. I am content with my personal qualities. I am highly unlikely to overreact to circumstances as others might do. I am able to maintain a balanced perspective on situations. Family, friends and acquaintances often come to me for ideas of guidance across a range of issues. I am comfortable not giving in to peer, family and other social pressures. Family is indeed important to me, but their expectations do not strongly influence my life. I have my own well-defined ambitions and goals. Bottom line: I need a partner who is energetic, enthusiastic and has high self-efficacy and will support me in my personal and professional interests that feed my sense of identity and accomplishment.
I show considerable tolerance of ambiguity and emotional expression. I am usually extremely sensitive to other’s feelings. Those who know me well would probably describe me as patient, open and eager to listen to others. I am not afraid of making or admitting to mistakes. I consistently and bravely show vulnerability to others. I can communicate my needs and feelings honestly when someone engages me directly. I do not rush to judgment; rather, I pay attention, listen without jumping to conclusions and then reflect on information before responding. I seek both to understand others and for others to understand me. Bottom line: I need someone who is eager to give, collect and discuss information with me patiently.
I am very flexible and action-oriented when addressing problems, yet not so eager to find resolution that I settle for quick, temporary agreements. Settling on a temporary agreement is often a way of avoiding conflict, and it can lead to needs not being met. I tend to evaluate the possible solutions and then actively engage to work on a positive outcome that is best for the relationship. I have the capacity to relinquish my control and pride for the greater good and growth of any relationship. Bottom line: I need a partner who is patient, a “big picture thinker” and can take control to make the best decisions for the good and growth of the relationship.
I have a firm sense of my sexual orientation, preferred sexual activities and comfort level. I like sex that is romantic, adventurous and fun, but for me sex is not a casual event. Sex has great importance in any relationship, and it is reserved for someone I care about. I tend to be very confident in my sexual ability, I am not self conscious in bed and I'm open to try various activities. I am willing to be vulnerable and relinquish control in the bedroom to my partner for I am a total submissive. While I appreciate spontaneity and wild abandon in sex, I also like for sex to be planned to some extent. Mostly I like my partner to set the mood, build anticipation. Bottom line: I need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates when it is planned to some extent rather than completely spontaneous.
There are two main types of love – Romantic Love and Companionate Love. Romantic Love is passionate, emotional and intense, whereas Companionate Love is a deep, affectionate attachment. I feel these two types of loves to different degrees in a relationship, and the levels of each can fluctuate over time. I may be best described as “a “hopeless romantic with a touch of realist.” This means that I do value the safety, security and comfort of Companionate Love, but for me a relationship must have a strong dose of Romantic Love. I desire someone who is on the same wavelength as me –sharing similar attitudes, moods and impulses. I want to view my partner as a soul mate – a person who I was destined to meet and fall in love with. Bottom line: I need someone who satisfies the hopeless romantic in me but who will insist that I take time to get to know each other well before taking the relationship to next level
I need someone who can express affection through touch – a playful tickle, holding hands, hugs and kisses or a light touch as he passes by.
This does not mean that I neither like nor need Verbal Communication. Rather, it suggests that I need someone who can show affection in ways other than just verbal expressions such as spontaneous compliments, frequent “I love you’s,” occasional notes for you to find and recognition of my achievements.