chaoticzero

Hey there. I'm 35, 5'7, bearded as you can see from the pics, tattoo'd, and I'm about 190 lbs. So, I'm not the tallest or skinniest of guys, but I am making a lot of progress on losing weight. I'm down about 45 lbs from where I was this time last year, so here's to that progression. I walk 3 miles a day, 5 miles when it's grocery day. It's exhausting sometimes, but it gets me good exercise.

I will be honest and upfront, I do have a girlfriend. But it's not at all what you think. I'm not the cheating sort and I will never condone cheating. We're in an open relationship. She lives in a different city than I do, so we only get to see each other every other weekend. For that reason and for the fact that we both have very high sex drives, she's allowed to have fun with someone on her end and I'm allowed to do the same. The rule is that it doesn't go further than just friendship and sex.

So, basically that's what I'm looking for. An ongoing NSA fwb kind of thing. Not just a one time hookup, as a lot call it. Someone clean, DDF, is okay with safe sex, and okay that it won't change my relationship status with her. Also, since just anyone can just say they're in an open relationship and be lying through their teeth, I can provide proof that it's open so that you know there won't be any drama involved. Like I said, we're all adults. If we're going to do adult things, we can sure as hell act our age. And it doesn't necessarily have to be all sex. I would like there to be a friendship there too. I don't have a whole lot of money to spend because of rent and bills, but we can do other things too. And to be honest, we all know that NSA fwb arrangements don't last forever, but my hope is that I can find a friendship that will outlast the benefits part.

I'm also clean and DDF. Anyone that I potentially have fun with I require that as well. Again, we're all adults, so let's do our best to do the right thing and keep it that way. For that reason, safe sex is a definite must.

And on to what I usually look for physically. I'm really attracted to older gals, or cougars, as they're commonly called. But I'm open to any age no younger than 25. I am extremely attracted to bigger girls or bbw as they're commonly referred to. Even better if you're a short bbw, but tall is okay too. I'll be honest, very rarely have I ever had any gal that is considered "fit" be attracted to me, but if you are and you're interested, I'll be open to that body type. And I will say that although to some this may be strange, a major turn on for me physically is if you have a bush. Not dirty or disgusting, but cleanly kept is nice. If you keep that area shaved, that's fine too. It's just a plus, not a requirement.

Another turn on for me is dancing. Like slow erotic dancing to a song that has a bit of an electronic kind of beat that picks up gradually. Something about being in close proximity, hips swaying, lower areas grinding together to the beat of the song.... it gets me really going. And it's a good lead into absolutely amazing sex.

Okay, enough about that before I get too detailed, lol. I do also want to mention that I have a room mate. If you and I have a bit of fun, I do have my own room and we can try to schedule that fun when he's not home, but there may be times when that's just not possible. Not to worry, though. He is pretty chill. He doesn't care what I do as long as it's in my room. Most of the time, he sticks to his room and completely ignores what I do in mine. I also have two cats. So, probably won't work out well if you're allergic, so big disclaimer there. If you're not, though, and you like cats, they're the sweetest you'll ever meet and they'll totally be your best friends. I do also have to mention since my profile says I have kids, I have one kid. He lives with his mother and we have not been together in a long time. I try to be in his life as much as I possibly can. For now, I only get to see him 3 times a month. That being said, if it's a day that I get to spend time with him, he will take priority over all else.

Now, let's talk briefly about turn off's. And by turn off's, I mean if these apply to you, please stay away. Faaaaaaaaar away. These turn off's are anger problems, violent tendencies, dependence on alcohol (I like to drink socially, but not every.....single....day) or drugs (I can't be around any kind of drugs at all, even weed for very important reasons), and being crazy or really clingy. So if we can just keep those out, that would be great. Friendship with NSA fun should not be that complicated, so let's not make it so. Just a side note regarding weed, I totally don't judge if you smoke it and if you do, that's totally fine, just please keep it away from me.

One last thing to mention and it is kind of a bummer right now. I live in North Austin, BUT.... my car died about a week ago. Transmission gave out. So that being said, for the time being until I can get another car (which hopefully will be next month, which from now is April), I can't travel. I am happy to host, though. But if you want to get to know me a bit in person before that happens, I entirely understand. It is the internet after all and one can never be too careful.

So, that's about it! If you've made it through this incredibly long description of what I'm looking for, hey, good on ya! You know everything that I'm going for and what all the pluses and requirements are. If this sounds good to you, please be the one to message me, lol. The reason I say this is because I hate coming off as that guy that's desperate by making the first move. There's so many that are out there. I prefer to set myself apart from them as much as possible. Anyway, not holding my breath on this, but hope to hear back from someone looking for the same thing I am! :)