resistor58's Profile

I'm the guy-next-door looking to meet girl-next-door type women for 1-on-1s!

I am incredibly honest and trustworthy. I would expect my match to have the same qualities. That is extremely important. I have a great, maybe sarcastic sense of humor (some would say disturbing). I enjoy making people laugh. I am intelligent and can carry on meaningful conversations. I care about other people's feelings.

I live a quiet and somewhat reclusive life and I prefer it that way. I don't like shopping, it's a chore. I have a tolerance for it in some cases, but only if I am shopping for materials for a creative project or I have the money and time to spend. I have few people in my life, but I value the ones I have because they mean something to me and I would do everything in my power to help them if they were in trouble. If someone causes me nothing but headache and constantly does terrible things, I turn and walk away. This applies to blood kin as much as anyone.

I firmly and wholeheartedly reject the notion that a person's looks are all that matters (especially in a relationship), and if you were a perfect 10 and had the mind of a five year old and would let me have you any way I wanted, I would not be interested - not even for bragging rights. I see that as hollow and stupid. I don't want a bitch - where I can do whatever I want and you just have to deal - I want an equal. And I know you will have wants too. I will do my best to meet those. I will not presume to know what they are and you need to tell me.

If you have to spend most of your time logged into facebook being adored by all your little friends (most of whom you don't interact with in real life) or your life goes to pieces, we won't get along. If you need a constant circle of people flirting with you to feel beautiful, we won't get along. If you can't put your phone down and have a conversation face to face with someone in real life without texting, we won't get along. If most of the complaining you do about people can be responded to with, "So why do you keep talking to them?" and you have no good answer, we probably won't get along.

I DO expect things of you, though. I expect if you want emotional intimacy with me, that you would take care with your actions not to hurt me needlessly. The more I am open with you and the closer I come to you the more I will need and want your company and affection and the more vulnerable I am to being hurt by you. Please take care with my heart. I can survive very much - I know this, but I don't enjoy pain any more than you do. And I understand the reverse vulnerability is true and I will do my best to be patient and constant because love can be scary, trust is scary, and being vulnerable to someone is terrifying. I will not take it for granted, nor will I use it to manipulate you. I will treat it as a rare and precious thing - for it seems almost no one is capable of trusting anymore, and if you have given me the chance to earn yours, I will not assume if I betrayed it you'd give me another.

I understand who I am, and I know what I can offer. Right now, I can offer time, and quite a bit of it. If you show yourself to be intelligent, capable of thinking about more than yourself on occasion, understanding that your actions can hurt other people, and genuinely are interested and capable of forming a meaningful relationship I can make a lot of time for you and you will rank very high in my priorities. I am not so afraid of getting hurt that I will not open myself up to it. However, I have been hurt and I will not risk myself foolishly on someone who doesn't seem to have the capacity to support a meaningful relationship. If you can live up to the above, I will care about how you feel, and if something I am doing could hurt you, tell me and I will do my best to resolve it and work things out.

I really have a low opinion of people who live in a fantasy world, and I have no respect for that. If you do not live in the real world, you have no hope of creating positive change for it. And if you don't live in the real world, you are part of the problem.

I don't have much money, I don't think I ever will. I try to make the most of my time and it's rare I don't have some sort of project on my plate.

If what I've written resonates with you, and you think you might be interested in sharing my life, please feel free to write me. I'd also be interested in anyone (with similar interests) who is actually interested in having and being a friend. But please, if you do write me, write something actually meaningful. I know this urging on my part has little meaning - as those who are incapable of seeing themselves honestly will not understand it and I should prove myself to them, and those who actually have a sense of self and are capable of self-evaluation need no urging.

I think this fairly well summarizes my strengths and failings - I can do little more than that.

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