The Answer to "What is Making Love"

The answer to "What is making love?"

I have been asked many times "what's the difference??" When I have said "that I prefer to make love to a woman, and not just have sex with her." This is to help define the differences between SEX and MAKING LOVE. Sex is of course a major part of making love. It?s the small, little details that can make a very big difference between the two.
Sex can usually satisfy and fulfill a need of the body, and part of the mind. MAKING LOVE also satisfies and fulfills the same needs as SEX. MAKING LOVE satisfies and fulfills the whole body and the whole mind. MAKING LOVE also satisfies and fulfills one more need. It satisfies and fulfills the heart and soul (or spirit). MAKING LOVE is more intense, more passionate, more intimate, and a feeling that the world doesn't exist outside. Except for you and your partner.
Below are some answers to how to make passionate making love, or just regular making love with someone. This is a list of some things (below) that can make making love, "MAKING LOVE!!!!"
*  ?A major part of it is trying to pleasure your partner more than yourself. 

*  ?Wanting your partner to have more pleasure than you and doing your best to make 
them orgasm and want you more. 

*  ?It's kissing like you have never kissed in your life (the light and gentle type). 

*  ?It's kissing your partners body that same way, light and gentle. 

*  ?It's using your hands to explore each other?s body, using a light touch. Taking a 
long time to reach all the really good spots. 

*  ?It's slowly undressing each other, or yourself as you are kissing. And getting 
glimpses of their body time to time. 

*  ?It's trying to hold your body as close to your partner?s body as you can. As if 
you?re trying to merge your bodies into one, and doing this thru-out the love 
making. 

*  ?It's wanting to feel your partners body pressed against yours so you can feel the 
warmth of their body on your own. 

*  ?It's not worrying what you look like and not really caring because you know that 
your partner wants to be with you for YOU!! Not just for your body or your looks. 

*  ?It's not trying to hold anything back, it's letting go. Knowing that your partner would never hurt you in any way (except by accident or if you asked them too). 

*  ?It's when you?re actually joined together in making love; it's enjoying every sensation of them. Their warmth, their heartbeat, their breathing, their smell, and their willingness and trust in you to share the most intimate parts of their body with you. 

*  ?It's also enjoying all the little sensations and feels of penetration, and the feels and sensations of intercourse. 

*  ?It's trying your best to cum/orgasm at the same time as your partner, so each of you can feel as one. 

*  ?When you cum/orgasm it feels as if your putting your soul into your partners body at the same time as they?re putting theirs into you. 

*  ?Also when you cum/orgasm you feel as if all your energy goes into the orgasm and into your partner. 

*  ?It's not wanting to move away/uncouple from your partner until you gain back your energy. Even then it would just be to stretch and regain your composure (because you showed your true self in the moments of true bliss you each shared) 

*  ?It's when you get your strength back, wanting to do it all over again, when your partner is ready too. 

*  ?For a man, It?s the willingness to go back down and clean up and suck out everything he just put into you. Also while doing that, trying to give even more orgasms as he is cleaning you up with his tongue. 

*  ?For a woman, It's the willingness to go down on your partner and clean up the cum and juices. Also to get your partner going again so you can do it all over again. 

*  ?It can be after making love, just holding and caressing your partner?s body and private parts with your hands. As to say (with your hands) this is what just made me happy and feel good, and thank you for those feelings 

*  ?It's after all the love making, just wanting to hold each other and go to sleep in their arms. If you?re lucky, you might still be joined together when you do. 

*  ?It's the willingness to talk to each other afterward, kiss and hold each other tightly. Enjoying the glow each of you will have. 

*  ?It's not worrying what they will think when you get up in the morning. Because of the fact that each of you just shared the most intimate and private parts of yourselves during lovemaking. 

*  ?It's in the morning being willing to do it all over again. 

*  ?It's going to the bathroom and not caring or worrying when your partner comes in 
and wants a kiss from you when you poo in the potty. Because it's a part of you, and they wouldn't mind if it smelled. (They may even ask if you want any help wiping! Ha-Ha) 

*  ?It's the willingness to let them see you at your worst (if it's when you first wake up, or something else). Knowing that they don't care about that, just the fact that they want to be with you for you. 

*  ?It's wanting to shower or bathe with them, so you can caress their body and show them your care for them, and how much you really enjoy being with them. 

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It's not caring about a wet spot on the bed, and even trying to position yourself on top of it so your partner doesn't have too.(Besides, it's only the juices of your love making.)
Making love doesn't always mean you actually have to have penetration. It can be just holding each other?s naked body tightly to yours and enjoying the feelings and sensations.
It can be just rubbing and/or massaging your partners body, to relax them, make them feel wanted, desired, and needed.
The biggest thing about making love is using your hands, minds, and bodies to give your partner the best and most wonderfullest feelings.
You use your hands to relax and pleasure your partner.
You use your mind to think of and react to all the ways to enhance the pleasures that your partner is feeling.
You use your body (in the normal ways!!), your whole body as a tool. It can be just wrapping your legs around them, or maybe just moving just a little bit to enhance all the sensations each of you are feeling.
It can be trying new things, experimenting, maybe using toys or food to enhance the pleasures. All of these would be done with understanding and trust in your partner. Knowing that they wouldn't hurt you, or do something you were not comfortable with doing.
I could probably keep this up for a lot longer (writing!). Some, if not all of these described in this could be considered and done as sex. But when done as making love, it's a lot more intense feelings and pleasures you are sharing.
THE BIGGEST THING OF ALL IS THAT YOU?RE WILLING TO LET GO OF ALL INHABITIONS AND DOUBTS. ENJOYING THE PLEASURE YOUR PARTNER
IS TRYING AND WILLING TO GIVE TO YOU, AND YOU ARE TRYING AND WILLING TO GIVE TO YOUR PARTNER!!!
It's mainly just being yourself and opening yourself to the one you?re with. Letting them know the real you, because they will do the same, and that?s what makes it so intense!! and pleasurable!! It's exactly as I described - Your joining together as one (even if it is only just at the waist). Your joining your bodies and souls for the time you?re together, and that strengthens them. When you make love to someone, it creates a bond between you and them that never goes away. It's always with you and a part of your life from that point on.

You can have sex with 5, 10, 100, or even 1000 people, but the one you make love too you'll always remember until you die. Even if you are only with that person once, you'll always remember every detail of your love making with them. A person you have had sex with many times, for example, you probably won?t remember much about the time you were together (maybe the major points), and some bits and pieces.
I hope this letter helps you think about what you have been experiencing lately, and that you might try some of what I have written down here. If you have a wonderful time because of what I wrote, I will be very happy! I'll know that a woman out there has been satisfied and fulfilled!!!